About Family Mediation

About Family Mediation

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• Family Mediation helps you resolve conflict and reach agreement on all issues surrounding separation, divorce or dissolution of civil partnership.
• It is a voluntary and confidential process which helps you reach joint decisions without the use of courts.
• It offers you a safe, neutral place where you and your ex-partner can meet with an impartial mediator to work out plans for the future.
• Mediators do not tell you what to do but help you look at different options for sorting things out, so that you reach your own agreements about all aspects of your separation, divorce or dissolution, including arrangements for children, finances and property.

Download our free leaflet which explains Mediation Information and Assessment Meetings here.

If you are seeking family mediation please use this link to go to our family mediation referral form

Due to recent changes in government thinking, family mediation is becoming the preferred method to resolve and prevent family disputes, especially where children are involved.  Agreements that have been freely negotiated can help restore communication, understanding and trust.

Mediation is open to anybody affected by family breakdown including separation, divorce and dissolution of civil partnership. It is mostly used by parents or couples who are experiencing difficulties agreeing arrangements, regardless of age, race, nationality, sexuality, orientation, mobility, faith and other such factors. For those whose first language is other than English, interpreter services can be provided. Mediation is also available to other family members, such as grandparents, who may be having difficulties over contact arrangements or step-parents who would like to support their new partner.

Stages of the Mediation Process

Stage 1: Contact

Stage 2: Mediation Information and Assessment Meeting (MIAM)

Stage 3: First Mediation Session

Stage 4: Second Mediation Session

Stage 5: Further Mediation Sessions

Stage 6: Legal Advice (If Appropriate)

Stage 7: Outcome

Frequently Asked Questions about Family Mediation

Learn about the differences between family mediation and counselling.

About National Family Mediation

National Family Mediation (NFM) is one of the founding members of the Family Mediation Council, the body which regulates standards of practice in family mediation. All NFM Mediators are professionals with a wealth of skills and experience in family mediation and conflict resolution. They deliver family mediation at the highest accredited standard. All are qualified to provide legally aided family mediation on behalf of the Legal Aid Agency (previously the Legal Services Commission).

source:-http://www.nfm.org.uk/index.php/family-mediation/about-family-mediation#further-help-and-support 

Trace Adkins Settles Divorce With Estranged Wife Rhonda Through Private Mediation After Fight Over $20m Fortune

Country singer Trace Adkins and wife Rhonda Adkins have finally settled their divorce.

The former couple decided to enter private mediation to negotiate a custody arrangement for their three daughters.

Rhonda's attorney told TMZ that the actual divorce case was dismissed because Trace, 53, wanted to keep the entire matter private. 

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Privately settled: Trace Adkins and wife Rhonda, pictured in December 2013, have come to an agreement in their divorce proceedings

His former wife will refile for divorce now that they have privately settled to make the split official after 17 years of marriage. 

Rhonda filed for the divorce in March 2014, following cheating rumours and a drunken brawl that sent Trace to rehab earlier in that same year.

Citing irreconcilable differences in her filing, Rhonda also obtained a restraining order against Trace to prevent him from 'harassing, threatening or assaulting' her. 

Troubled star: The performer (above in April) of several hit country songs got into trouble early in 2014 with a drunken brawl, which was then followed by rehab and the separation

She requested alimony, child support and primary custody of the couple's three children - daughters MacKenzie, Brianna, and Trinity. 

 On June 1, however, Rhonda filed for an 'order of voluntary dismissal' in Williamson County, Tennessee, which was swiftly granted by a judge, so that the two could settle in private.

With this legal action, Trace may be heading for a calmer period in his life after a tumultuous year that began with the Ladies Love Country Boys singer beating-up a lookalike impersonator.

Domestic difficulties: Rhonda is Trace's third wife - he divorced his second wife after she shot him

Trace Adkins and wife Rhonda at Pre-Grammy Gala (2009)

Apparently fuelled by alcohol, the brawl included homophobic and racist rants, as reported by TMZ.

Domestic trouble has long plagued the one-time winner of All-Star Celebrity Apprentice, with Rhonda being the singer's third wife.

He divorced his second wife, Julie, after an incident in 1994 when she shot Trace during an argument.

Happier time: Trace and Rhonda (above in 2009) have been married for 17 years and have three daughters together

source:- http://www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-3128520/Trace-Adkins-settles-divorce-estranged-wife-Rhonda-private-mediation-fight-20m-fortune.html

Why Choose Family Mediation?

Family mediators are there to help you to reach decisions about things that are important for you and your family. They can help you to find a way to plan for the future and to agree what will work best for you without having to go to court. That can save you time, money and stress.

Mediation provides you with the space and time to think about what is most important for your children and for the whole family. You can work out how arrangements for your children will work best and think about what is going to be important for your children as they grow up.

Regardless of whether you are a parent or not, mediation can help you deal with your money, the options you may have about where you will live, and planning your future finances.

When should I try family mediation?

Contact a mediator as soon as you need help sorting things out. Even if you’ve been separated for a while, or if your case has already gone to court, mediation can still help to resolve things.

You can’t usually take your case to court until you find out if mediation can help you first. If you can’t show that you’ve considered it, the judge may stop or delay proceedings until you have.

Once you’ve found a mediatior, the next step is to attend a first meeting with them to find out if it’s right for you. Sometimes this is called a Mediation Information & Assessment Meeting (MIAM).

If you think you need legal advice to help you during mediation, this can be arranged at any time during the process. You might be able to get legal aid to pay for this.

If your case is not suitable for mediation you will still need to show the judge you’ve considered it by filling in a C100 form.

source:- http://www.familymediationcouncil.org.uk/family-mediation/choose-family-mediation/

Top 10 Tips For A Great Divorce

For some people, divorce inevitably will be ugly. For lots of reasons it's how it will play out. For many people, though, splitting up is a grief-filled experience full of genuine loss and wonderful opportunities. If that's where you are, if you simply were not meant to be married anymore and you are two people of good will, trying to be decent to each other, here are 10 great ways to protect and insulate your fragile peace: 

1. Don't try to be friends too soon.

Your reactions, impulses, needs and interests will cycle differently. You need a safe, professional distance from each other to conduct the business, set the rules and boundaries that will allow you to move into a parenting partnership and to see if a new friendship might flourish.

 2. Lawyers prepare for the worst. Mediators bring out your best.

Start with a great mediator who is also a lawyer. If you're not at war already, heading to a sharky lawyer out of fear will certainly start one. If you have a working relationship, similar goals and no huge wedge issues up front, try an experienced mediator first. You'll save oodles of money and are more likely to come out of it with the good parts of your relationship intact

3. Write a Parenting Plan that speaks directly to your children.

If you start out with "To Adam and Ella," you are more likely to write a plan with your kids' best interests in clear focus. Picture them reading it. If they are old enough, share it with them. Show them you are working as a team, from the beginning, on their behalf.

4. Trust But Verify: Write everything down

Do not assume either of you will remember or abide by the agreement no matter how friendly things are. Get it all in writing in a coherent plan and agreement so nobody 'forgets' or acts out. This is why a mediator who is also a lawyer is such a strong choice. Especially with issues of money and parenting, the more details are in writing the better. For example, if you live in the same area and are comfortable with the non-custodial spouse or co-parent visiting during non-visiting times or if you are agreeing to a degree of flexibility, write it down.

5. Agree on how to disagree

Failure is inevitable. Things will zig when you thought they'd zag. Minefields will blow in areas you had no idea were even tender. Have a plan for that. What's your process for when you hit a snag? What if somebody gets a better job and the money changes, or if somebody wants to relocate or if you think parents should pay for graduate school but he doesn't? What is your process? Head back to mediation? Write down the precise process so everybody is clear.

6. Time Outs: Outline clear and effective consequences

.Agree on what happens if one person does not abide by the agreement or somehow does not follow through. Like with parenting, you need to know what happens to those who break the rules - make sure you know what happens to the rule breaker and what the ex gets to do about it.

7. Resist old patterns

Part of the relief of divorce is you are no longer responsible for your partner's insecurities, self hatred, wacked relationship with his/her family, professional disappointments or any other despair you had to live with. Same for them. No more front-loading onto them and no more listening TO them. You both are released so be released. Resist the urge to give or seek old patterns of support. Beware of divorce sex. I'll just leave it at that.

8. Let your relationship transform. Burn the old and see what emerges.

If your relationship is going to have any chance at re-emerging in a new, healthy form that allows you to be friends and strong parenting partners, you have to let it all go first. Who knows what you'll keep or who you will become. Don't feel betrayed if the other person withdraws or remains silent when you start a riff on how hard it is to blah blah blah. She/he is wisely trying to build new boundaries for the care and safety of your relationship. It may feel lousy and lonely for a while but it's the only way to move forward in a healthy way.

9. Get together as a (newly-reconfigured) family

If you can, make time to gather as a family. Go out for dinner. Show the kids you still care about each other. They are going to want you back together anyway and you might as well start demonstrating early that they still have two parents who love them and value each other, and we are still a family no matter what.

10. No new people

If there are third parties involved, you're probably not going to be able to take any of this advice because somebody done somebody really wrong and somebody is enraged, betrayed and deeply wounded. If, however, somehow there were others involved or others come enter the scene early on, do not, DO NOT involve them with the kids. Even if the kids are teenagers it's too confusing and raw. Let the focus be on the family of origin.   

source:- https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/because-im-the-mom/201101/top-10-tips-great-divorce
                                    

Divorced Man Selling Half Of His Gadgets On eBay

This is what we call a rough split.

One love-lost German has allegedly decided to hand his ex-wife her half of their belongings in a peculiar way: By actually sawing them in half and handing his ex-wife her half of their belongings.

What is he doing with his halves? He’s selling them on eBay, of course.

(eBay/der.juli)

Listed to ebay.de are one-half of an iPhone, one-half of a MacBook Pro, one-half of an HD TV, and more. He’s even posted an auction for one part of a sawed-in-two car.

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We’re obviously not so quick to believe everything we’re seeing here. We’re passing all this on as a questionable, though still hilarious, report.

You can watch the video that’s embedded in the auctions below, which seems to show some of the listed items being cut in half.

source:- https://www.yahoo.com/tech/divorced-man-selling-half-of-his-gadgets-on-ebay-121784162054.html