3 Reasons Married Men Will NEVER Leave Their Wives

You're dating a married man, but if you think he'll be yours one day, guess again.

At least 3 times a week I get an email from women asking me about the married man they're dating. The women are all frustrated because the guy hasn't left his wife, and they want some form of commitment from him.

If you're having an affair with a married man, this going to be a virtual slap in the face, and it's one you need. I'm going to give you 3 reasons you're wasting your life, and why he'll never leave her.

1. He has everything he needs: Why would he leave his wife and kids? He gets to have amazing sex with you with no commitment at all. Then he gets to go home and play with his kids. It's the ideal situation for a guy. He has the wife who feeds him, cleans up after him, and looks after his children, and then he has his lover taking care of him in other ways he needs. He has two girlfriends and everything done for him. He's enjoying it!

2. Divorce is too painful: Think about the repercussions of divorce. There's the hassle of lawyers, the fighting, the upset of the children, the financial burden, and a host of other problems divorce throws up. Why would he put himself and his family through that if he doesn't have to? You seem happy to see him when he can fit you in, so why would he leave his wife?

3. He'd have left her already: If this guy loved you more than anything, then even with the pain of divorce and the upset of leaving his family, he'd have left her by now. If he wanted to be with you, and if he loved you like you think he does, he'd have already left his family. Think about it. He hasn't left his wife because he doesn't want to. Simple as that. So what do you do about it?

Very simply, you give him an ultimatum. What he's doing isn't fair on you, his wife, or his children, and he needs to make up his mind. You need to gather as much strength as you can, look him in the face, and tell him, "I love you. I want to be with you. But I'm not going to do this anymore. I'm not going to see you again until you move out of your home.

"I want to come to your new apartment. I don't want to keep meeting at my place or hotels. The only way you'll see me again is if you text me or call me with the address of your new apartment. I want proof you've left your wife." Give him this ultimatum and you’ll know where you stand. Are you going to be his partner or will you only ever be, "the other woman"?

You see, the "other woman" is never going to succeed.

The other woman is never going to get the man. All she's going to do is waste her life waiting for a man who will never be hers. She's missing the chance to find a man who's devoted only to her.

I know women that have done this for four, five, six years even. You need to look at your own emotional needs, wants, and desires. Are you dating a married man because you like to live on the edge? Is it because you don’t want commitment yourself? Maybe you're scared of men hurting you?

A lot of women date married men because they're so afraid of getting out there and meeting men. They have relationships with married guys because deep down they know it's never going to go anywhere. They don't need to leave themselves 100% vulnerable. Other women just love the chase. They love the drama of trying to win a man who isn't theirs. You need to figure out who you are. My advice is stop being the other woman. It's not fair any of you involved, and you deserve a man of your own!

Source:- http://www.yourtango.com/experts/david-wygant/3-reasons-your-married-man-will-never-leave-his-wife

"Paul…I Am Divorcing You"

A WOMAN let her husband know their marriage is over by posting a message on the sign outside their local pub asking for divorce.

A woman let her husband know she wanted a divorce on a bar sign [WALES NEWS SERVICE]

The wife persuaded the manager of Noah's Yard in Swansea to change the shopfront sign to say 'Paul…I am divorcing you' and it was displayed on Saturday.

The unnamed woman then text her husband to ask him to read the sign which she said left him "furious".

The woman, who is a regular at the bar in South Wales, said she wanted to name and shame her husband after he allegedly had an affair. 

She said: "I was angry and upset so wanted a sign to go up for everyone to see.

The woman said she wanted to name and shame her husband after he allegedly had an affair [WALES NEWS SERVICE]

I was angry and upset so wanted a sign to go up for everyone to see

The unnamed woman

"When I found out I went through a mixture of emotions but felt angry and wanted him to pay.

"I had a drink in the bar last week and decided to get my own back.

"We have been together for years and it is so sad it has come to this. I am absolutely devastated and going through a really tough time at the moment.

"A lot of my friends and family have seen it and have been supporting me.

"I did feel a bit better once the sign went up. I wanted to name and shame him."

Last year the woman had used a bar sign to propose to her husband [WALES NEWS SERVICE]

The message was changed today to "Btw…I am keeping the dog" and comes a year after she asked him to marry her through another bar sign message.

Bar owner Noah Redfern said the magnetic sign outside is often used to support causes in the community and the area's sports team.

However, Mr Redfern said this is the first time that they had been asked to post a message signalling the end of a marriage.

He said: "Maybe this will become a new way of asking for a divorce! 

"We have had a lot of interest in it from customers who have been asking about the story behind the sign." 

Local resident Linda Davies added: "Good on her. If my husband ever cheated on me then I would string him up by his privates.

"Maybe he thought he could get away with sleeping around but I bet he is regretting it now."

Source:- http://www.express.co.uk/news/weird/445278/Paul-I-am-divorcing-you-Woman-lets-husband-know-marriage-is-over-with-bar-sign-message

How to Avoid Getting a Divorce

Your marriage looks like its over and your spouse has told you s/he wants a divorce. Perhaps s/he's even moved out. Maybe s/he's even having an affair. How do you stop fighting? How do you get him/her to change his/her mind and stay?

Steps

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   Act confident. Your spouse fell in love with a happy and balanced person whose world lit up every time s/he walked into the room. It's understandable you're unhappy that s/he's pulling away from you, but the more you cling, need, and desperately try to hang on, the more unhappy you are (since it's obvious by now that s/he's leaving you), and the less and less you are the person s/he once fell in love with. Be honest with yourself: Would you want to spend the rest of your life with someone who's been acting the way you have been acting lately? If you're friendly,attentive, and fun to be around, s/he will want to be around you. S/he will start to gravitate (slowly but surely) back to you. Try to be confident, but not arrogant, even if it is difficult for you.
   
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   Empathize with your partner. Cater to their emotional needs first, then the material ones. Does you partner want to empty the bank account and buy a sports car? Say "I agree, it would be great fun to buy a flashy car. Let's go to the auto show this weekend, pretend we're filthy rich, and go for some test drives." Notice how you bypassed (for the time being) emptying the bank account and instead focused on his(her) feelings. This brings you closer together. Does your partner say you don't do enough chores around the house? Say "Yes, I agree, I don't do any where near as much work around the house as you do. I understand how upset that must make you feel at times." Notice how you bypassed (for the time being) actually doing the chores, and instead focused on her(his) feelings.
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   Address the physical and material needs and desires after establishing a common ground. If you've gone to the car show and had a great time, speak to each other if your partner wants to spend money you don't have. If you begin to argue and your partner says "You never care about what I want!", turn away from the spending issue and speak with them about how you want them to be happy, and that's why you married them in the first place, but that in the long run, neither of you will profit from being in debt. Let them know that you would like to make them feel loved and appreciated in a different, more sensible way.
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   Talk to your partner about your future. It does not help to pretend there is no problem. That will not make it disappear. Make time to speak with your partner openly. Prepare yourself for being emotionally vulnerable and lay it all on the table.Communicate your feelings and your willingness to acknowledge theirs. If you love them and want them to give you a chance and stay with you, tell them that. Offer to have counseling sessions or anything else you (or they) think might help you.
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   Be honest and ask for honesty in return. Tell your partner that even if they are not in love with you at the moment, the least you owe each other is respect. Respect means being honest to each other. If you want to know and you think you can handle it emotionally, ask them whether they are having an affair. Before you ask, think about how you will respond to the possible answers. If they are having an affair, tell them how much that hurts you, even if it feels counterintuitive. Tell them that you care about fidelity and that you vowed to be faithful to each other. Ask them to end their affair if you want to rebuild a strong bond with each other.
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   Be open to change. Agree to make changes in your routines or interaction if you feel it will help. Make clear that you will try your best, but it might take you some time to get used to them. Then really try your best and show that you are sincere. Ask the same in return.
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   Make up your mind to let it go if none of the above helps. If your partner is having an affair and unwilling to give it up, don't stay. You can only save your marriage together. If your partner simply does not want to, there is not much you can do, but you owe it to them and your relationship to genuinely try before throwing in the towel.

Source:- http://www.wikihow.com/Avoid-Getting-a-Divorce

How to Survive Infidelity

How to Survive Infidelity

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The question I am most frequently asked by visitors to this web site is "how can I survive my spouse's affair?" After having counseled thousands of couples with hundreds of marital conflicts, I am completely convinced that a spouse's unfaithfulness is the most painful experience that can be inflicted in marriage. Those I've counseled who have 

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had the tragic misfortune of having experienced rape, physical abuse, sexual abuse of their children, and infidelity have consistently reported to me that their spouse's unfaithfulness was their very worst experience. To be convinced of the devastating impact of infidelity, you only need to go through it once.

And yet, more than 50% of all spouses are victims of infidelity, which means that one spouse in most marriages will suffer the greatest marital pain possible at some time during their lifetimes. It's no wonder that I receive so many letters from these victims of unfaithfulness.